Wednesday 7 August 2013

RELATIONSHIP 101: Do's and Don'ts



If there's one issue that everyone will be faced with at one point in time, it is that of relationships. Because every person has an innate desire to belong, to relate with the opposite sex and to experience love, relationships are part of the human experience. If you look to the creation story in Genesis 2, you'd see that Adam was lonely in the garden, even though he was technically not alone (as there were other animals on earth). However, Adam didn't have someone of his kind (human) and type (compatible) to relate with. We can therefore see that the need for relationship with the opposite sex was in man from the beginning. Of course, most adults who enter into relationships desire for such to end in marriage, which is still in line with God's purpose. When God saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone, He created Eve and she became his wife.

However, we must understand that not every relationship is meant to end in marriage. Some relationships are just meant for the moment, or to put it more aptly, for a season. There are people God brings into your life for a purpose, and when this purpose has been fulfilled, He removes them.

For those that aren't at that point in life where marriage is desired, exercise caution and wisdom when embarking on close relationships. There are people that will not add any value to your life, but rather subtract from it. Just because you like a person, doesn't mean you need a relationship with the person. Many relationships are simply time-wasters while some people will only help destroy your destiny or distract you from it. Furthermore, avoid being involved with someone who makes you compromise your faith, values and ideals. The worst mistake we can make is to constantly get mixed up with people who make us conform to their own image or ideas of who we should be. Never lose yourself and your identity because you want a man/woman to love you. Learn to guard your heart from unnecessary heartbreak and hurt.

If you desiring marriage, then believe that just like God tailor-made Eve for Adam, so has He created a spouse for you. There is someone that is your perfect match, one who compliments you in every sense of the word...someone with whom you will build a lifelong relationship. By faith, you can ask God to bring this person into your life. And when you find the one God made for you, you'll be accepted for who you are...even your weaknesses won't be an issue. As a Christian, always remember that you have the Holy Spirit and the word of God to guide and counsel you in every aspect of your life, even as regards relationships.

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